Friday, February 20, 2009

Love and Collecting

I have been thinking all week about something that happened to me on Valentines Day. And I am curious if anyone else has experienced this.

For Valentine’s Day weekend, I agreed to take my wife to a marriage seminar that was being put on at a local church. It was a 2 day event that focused on love and respect and all the other gooey things that marriages should entail. It wasn’t cheap either, and part of the deal was that I couldn’t complain and had to act like I really liked it. You know, kind of like working at Beckett.

Anyway, I share this because of what happened afterwards. My kids were at the out-laws, so we didn’t have plans on Saturday afternoon. So after the seminar ended, my wife actually suggested that we go to the local card shop together. This has never happened in nearly 8 years of marriage, and to be honest, I was unsure how I felt about it. It’s my hobby, and my thing. There are just some things, like golf, that you would rather do without your woman. But I put those feelings aside and floored it in the manly-van to the shop. A funny thing happened there. As she was encouraging me to open some packs, she actually got into the game.

You see, the fear in involving someone like your wife in your hobby is that they will suck the fun out of it. It’s the same reason why you can’t be married and watch MTV. There is no pride to be gained by watching the Real World with your spouse.

We started with some SP Authentic Football. I was hoping to show her a nice patch. But why bother as my luck with this product has been beyond ugly this year. I got some lineman auto, a Cason auto and a Morelli auto. If you are counting, yeah, that’s 3 autos with no patch or veteran auto.

Here is where it happened. She looked at me and instead of saying, “Well, that was a waste of money. Why do you bother with this stupid hobby?” (Not that I wasn’t thinking that myself, but dang it, that’s for me to think. I don’t want to hear it from anyone else). She actually said, “What else can we open. I want you to get something good.” You can imagine my surprise. To make a long story short, we tried some Contenders and got a Mendenhall Auto #/25. Enough to satisfy and justify the visit.

Now I don’t imagine that my wife will be going with me to the shop very often, if ever. But I will be the first to say that it was very meaningful to have her there to share in the hobby for once. And it was very fun to see her catch a little buzz from opening packs, even if she was just “not complaining and acting like she wanted to be there”. And yes, insert your bedroom joke here.

I bring this up because it got me thinking. Does anyone out there share their hobby with their significant other? If so, to what level. And by significant other, I don’t mean your Chad Johnson Fat Head.


  1. My wife loves to bust wax... loves it. Especially football. She has the most amazing luck when it comes to hits. Unbelievable. I pull an auto of a backup fullback, she gets a Matt Ryan auto.
    The big plus for me is she likes to sort and put the cards in pages.

  2. oh yeah.. and welcome to the blogging world...

  3. My wife isn't really into it that much, not any of my hobbies. Then again, I'm not really into her hobbies either. Still somehow, we love spending time together, and she's still a geek like me, just likes different things.

  4. My wife probably thinks I'm out of my mind with this hobby, but she has never complained. She hasn't ever shown any interest in it herself, but sometimes I give her a few packs to open at the same time as me. I can tell she likes it.

    Wow, I just read that and it's such a typical man thing to say: "I can tell she likes it".

    I'm probably delusional.

  5. And that is why I don't discuss my hobby at all with my girlfriend and keep her knowledge of it minimal.

  6. Thanks Cap! I added your blog to my list.

    My wife likes to sew, if she ever asks me to go to the fabric store, I think I would stab myself in the eye. I guess that is why it was cool that she came with me.

  7. My wife is currently obsessed with Mayo. Before that, it was Elite Extra Edition. She loves busting packs and organizing. She's just as likely as I am to bring up cards in conversation.

    I'd either be a lot more active in online communities or out of the hobby all together if it weren't for her being into it.

  8. My wife is a huge baseball fan and when I started collecting I helped her develop a player collection of her favorite player Omar Vizquel which she is very proud of. Before we had kids she would, on occasion, go to the shop with me. Whenever I do open new product she wants in. Sometimes I don't let her because she ALWAYS pulls the hits. Her best blind pack pull was a Nolan Ryan auto numered to 50 from Donruss Classics. She's cool with it over-all

  9. My wife wants me to get rid of every single card I have. But I don't think I'd have it any other way. She use to watch baseball with me but that was when the Mariners were really good...